There is always going to be obstacles in life, whether the universe puts them there for us to overcome OR we put them there ourselves.
Our self-sabotaging behaviours or thoughts stop us from taking action and going after the things we want. It's our inner mean girl telling us, "you're not good enough" and "you can't do this" and so we create our own limiting beliefs without even realising it, to protect ourselves from getting hurt.
Lucy Carter is a creative and the Founder of The Alkymi Collective, a company that empowers young aspiring models with the knowledge and mindset tools to make it in the industry.
In this podcast episode, Lucy and I connected on so many things including how to overcome limiting beliefs and self-sabotage. How to break into the modelling industry, how to be confident and committed to our goals to seize opportunities and chase your dreams without the fear.
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Lucy has been a hair and makeup artist working on photoshoots with aspiring and experienced models for over 11 years. She is also a curve model with Australia's leading Commercial Model Agency, Wink Models.
Lucy found her true passion after years of watching models make mistakes and stumble through the industry. She knew it was time to start mentoring young aspiring models to help them unlock their true, exceptional potential, so they are empowered with the right "Model Mindset".
After her own journey in the industry, Lucy is helping women overcome their roadblocks, make smart, safe and educated choices and become recognised as empowered and professional models.
Creating The Alkymi Collective
The goal is to give aspiring models the right tools and know how to go into this industry and be strong, confident women who know their self-worth.
As aspiring models or anything really, I understand that when we're first starting out we can be desperate to become the best and would do anything to make things work, which can be a good and a bad thing.
It's good to be dedicated to what you want but nothing good ever comes from desperate decision making, you have to be prepared and know when to say 'yes' and when to say 'no'.
Being desperate and unaware in itself is self-sabotage because you're not thinking things through because you simply don't know any better. People don't realise that being a model is a tough gig you have to know the industry and know yourself.
Aspiring models will often take any old job because it's something, but in the long run, it could be harmful to your career and longevity in the industry.
If you're not making informed, safe decisions then you're putting your career and more importantly your life in jeopardy. It's really important to be in control and to have the industry knowledge.
You have to realise when something is not serving you or is an unsafe situation. If you're signed with a good agent, they will help you with this but if you're not it's good to have a mentor who has the industry knowledge to help you with this.
Having confidence in front of the camera
As a signed and experienced model myself, one of the most important elements of becoming a successful model is your mindset and overall confidence.
If you don't have confidence in yourself and your body it doesn't matter how perfect you are for the job, you won't get it. The camera and the people on set can detect how confident you truly are (or aren't) and if you don't know who you are and why you're there then it's going to be really hard to be successful.
I think people think models just stand in front of a camera and look pretty but it's so much more than that. You have to have resilience, determination and it's not just about what you look like like on the outside, it's about who you are on the inside that counts in the end.
Also, keep in mind that you shouldn't have to spend a tonne of money upfront to break into the industry. You can find ways to gain experience and build your confidence in front of the camera, whether you do at home photoshoots with your phone and a tripod or you collaborate with aspiring photographers.
Just make sure you are ALWAYS doing your research and working with reputable people in the industry. This is where an agency or a mentor like Lucy can help you.
The pictures above are by the EXTREMELY talented Morgan Wates aka @blessedpixels who Lucy and I have both had the pleasure of working with. If you're looking for a reputable photographer and beautiful human being to create magic with, then Morgan is your woman.
Morgan is a Melbourne based creative, and you can find her at www.blessedpixelsphotography.com
Understanding your "why"
An important part of the modelling industry is knowing why you're there. Knowing why you're doing what you doing and what you end goal is so that you have a purpose.
An important part of the Model Momentum Program is all about mindset and figuring out your why. If you go into an agency and they ask you why you want to become a model and your response is "for fun" or "it's just a hobby" you're likely to be met with a "thank you, next".
There are so many young aspiring models that you have to stand out from the rest and we're not talking about how you look. You have to be mentally prepared and have a reason behind everything you do.
As a model, you are your own brand. You will be representing yourself but also your agency if you are a signed model, and so you have to ensure you're protecting your brand and theirs.
Ask yourself these questions:
Are you dedicated?
Can you be professional, for example, showing up to castings, flights, shoots etc on time and ready to work?
Are you confident in your abilities?
Can you take direction well?
Do you know your values and what you stand for?
Because if you don't stand for something, you'll fall for anything.
If you're a freelance model, it's just as important, if not more important to know your stuff. Without an agency, your safety and reputation can be compromised if you work with the wrong people.
Ensure you're doing your research, speaking with the right people and listening to your gut! If it doesn't feel right then it's probably not, your mental and physical health and safety should always come first, just like any other job.
Overcoming your limiting beliefs
When it comes to self-sabotage or limiting beliefs often come from a place of fear. When a challenge or a new opportunity arises, it's often easier to stay in our comfort zone and pass on the opportunity.
Many of us have gotten used to staying in our comfort zone and our self-destructive behaviours have just become habits without us even realising it. It's how we protect ourselves but they keep us stuck and undermines our happiness and success. How do we overcome our limiting beliefs?
When it comes to our limiting beliefs they often stem from a place of hurt. Someone has told us we're not good enough and we hold onto that, maybe without even realising.
It's not until we start to unpack that, that we can start to push ourselves outside our comfort zones and into a world of happiness and success.
I don't necessarily think we have to always overcome our limiting beliefs, they might always be underlying but we can learn how to deal with them.
There's a lot of reflection and forgiveness that needs to happen in order for us to move on with our lives. So that when these limiting beliefs pop up, we can:
Recognise when they're happening
Take time to self-reflect on why they pop up for us
Be patient and kind to ourselves
Work to build yourself up
Make small meaningful changes every day
This goes back to knowing your "why". Know your goals and plan for the future so that you know why you're doing what you're doing and what you have to do in order to achieve that.
Having goals planned out means you can come back to them when the limiting beliefs pop up and as a reminder of why you're taking the right opportunities that come your way.
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