Practising self-love is not always easy, especially in times when we face serious challenges. It’s not about being self-absorbed or narcissistic, it’s about getting in touch with ourselves.
It allows us to push through our limiting beliefs, take care of our well-being, health and happiness.
'Stop being so negative', 'you need to love yourself more', it's comments like these that making loving yourself seem easy but practising self-love is NOT always easy. That's why we need to create meaningful action towards practising self-love every day.
So.. here are five actionable tips that are going to help you to practice self-love so that it becomes second nature.
1. Create a Self-Love List
In moments of negativity, it can be easy to tell ourselves that we aren't "worth it", whatever "it" is and in those moments of doubt and negativity we have to make a decision. A decision to be "worth it" and practice self-love OR to simply give up.
Referring to a self-love list (that you've prepared earlier) will remind you of all the reasons why YOU ARE WORTH IT!
Things to go on your self-love list include:
What are some of your best achievements in life?
Your kid/s, career, travel, relationship, mental health, schooling, fitness, languages, volunteer work
What's your favourite feature?
Your sense of humour, personality, empathy, kindness, strength, honesty, relatability, maybe it's your poppin' cheekbones or booty!
What are you grateful for?
A roof over your head, food in your belly, a job, your courage, strength, your heart or belongings. Your life lessons, mistakes, mentors and people who love you, friends, family or even colleagues.
Don't let self-doubt corrupt your self-love.
You have so much to love about yourself and to be thankful for in life. Build yourself up and continue to refer to and add to your list so that negative thoughts aren't able to break through your wall of self-love!
2. Get More Sunshine
Make like a sunflower and turn to the sun!
Lack of sunlight is proven to cause feelings loss of energy, tiredness, difficulty concentrating, irritability and even depression. That's why people in Northern latitudes (where there are fewer hours of daylight) suffer from these symptoms more than those in southern latitudes.
Ever heard of 'seasonal affective disorder?' Web MD explains that "women especially between the ages of 20 and 40 -- appear to be affected more frequently than men."
The cure? Sunlight! However, sunlight can be hard to come by during winter, so light boxes are devices that provide bright artificial light. They are frequently prescribed for people with seasonal affective disorder.
3. Appreciate the People in Your Life
Sometimes we think more about the people that are no longer in our lives, more than the people who are.
Don't take the people in your life for granted. Put your phone away at dinners, listen and be present when you're with your friends and family. Be good to them and let them know how much you value them, their time and love.
4. Take Time for Yourself
Whilst it's important to appreciate the people in our lives, it's just as important to take time to practise self-care and fill up your cup.
You can't share yourself with others if your cup is empty so make time for yourself to pursue a passion, get moving, spend time outdoors or just enjoy putting on a face mask and watching some trashy tv.
Have moments to rest and rejuvenate because when you're taking good care of yourself, your other relationships will flourish.
5. Change the Way You Think About Food
Changing the way you think about food can set you free. Often we think of food as either "good" or "bad" and when we consume "bad" food we feel guilty or punish ourselves.
We need to educate ourselves on how to read nutrition labels on food.
But also realise that when you do indulge in a "bad" food you don't have to beat yourself up. Enjoy that moment and the craving is satisfied, then your next meal should be something healthy.
Once we have a better understanding of food and how it helps our bodies run we can eat more intuitively. It should also mean that we are less likely to buy into certain diets or weight loss gimmicks and instead, treat our bodies with respect and understanding.
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